We all have our own standards, own
ethics, and own values. So, what are my standards? I am a true believer in
doing what you say you are going to do. Especially when I take on a leadership
role, I have a sense of responsibility. When I say I will do something, I will
do it. I’m not a person who gives false promises. Either I will tell you I will
do it or I will tell you that I can’t do it. I get upset and angry if somebody
can’t keep their word. If I say I will do something, no matter how hard the
situation is or how busy in life I am, I will do it. I will make arrangements
to ensure I have kept my word. Some people find me reliable and others find me
too free with my life. I believe the human interaction is important in making
good and trustworthy relationships. However, that’s not the case. I have the
standards and I abide by it. I’d expect the same as well from the others, but
most of the time there are excuses. Either you do it or you don’t. There’s no
need for excuses. That’s my policy.
Flashback to my high school when I
was ran my school club. Every day was a fun day with lots of activities and
excitement. After I graduated, I passed on the leadership to my friend. His
first year with my guidance, he was able to complete most of the planned
activities. I can’t tell if it was his school work and life, he became less and
less involved. The club became more and more quiet. The second year for his
leadership of the club, I did not give any guidance. Furthermore, it was
becoming dormant and almost dead. Occasionally, I would still pop back to give
support and guidance. One day I pointed out his slacking and he became angry at
me. His excuse? Lots of school exams, other clubs, extracurricular activities,
girlfriend, etc. On and on with the excuses. He said that I had too much time
on my hands. Perhaps he was right. Because obviously being a full time student
at post-secondary and having a part time job would be any way easier than his
life. Wrong. Since I founded the club, it was my responsibility to oversee its
legacy. Hence, I had to manage my time for my duty.
How good of a person are you when they put their trust in you
and you give them excuses? Pretty much you would be considered useless. Once
again, this is my thoughts about this topic although some may disagree
completely. One thing I can say with confidence is when you put your trust and
rely on them and they end up not doing it or make up excuses, it truly is a
disappointment. Perhaps it’s just me, but I have had a lot of disappointing
moments in my life. If you had a legitimate excuse, that’s fine. But when it
becomes an occurrence and you either postpone or not do the task thereafter,
it’s just like the story of the boy who cried wolf. Trust takes years to build
and a minute to lose it.
There are days I wonder why I get
all the disappointments in life from people when all I have was made them happy
by being reliable. Where is my share? You’d expect what you give is what you
get. Isn’t it that the way it should be? I guess I’ll never know…