Some days I think of giving up in finding the One. Other
days, I choose to not think about it at all. I guess I’m too scared to face the
problem. Truth be told, I never had a girlfriend or had the need for one. I was
eighteen and nearing nineteen when it all changed for me.
Back when I was in elementary school, there were some girls,
but I wasn’t really interested back then. The teasing you’d also get in
elementary made it harder for me as well. You see, I wasn’t the popular kid in
elementary or secondary school. I was shy around people. Introverted, others
would call it. That grade twelve year back in 2010, I decided to look at myself
and change my personality and attitude. I started to do more activities that
allowed me to interact with others. Started a school club, joined yearbook, and
did lots of community service.
Went to post -secondary, continued
with the new me, I was progressing better and becoming less socially awkward
and had increased interpersonal skills. On the last term, I encountered a crisis
in my life from a practice emergency tabletop exercise. I thought everything
went downhill for me at that point, but there was a girl in my class who showed
that she cared for me. She paid extra time with me to help me through my
crisis. Personal time which I spent too much and relied upon. At the time, I
was hopeless, but she showed me that she cared and which is what touched me so
deeply. This new feeling made me feel warm and fuzzy and brought me more
dependent on her. Eventually, I took too much of her time and she started to
push me away and ask others to help my crisis. I was upset, confused, and not
to mention scared. Who shall I share my own issues with now? Who would care?
One classmate suggested I talk to my
instructor. It helped a bit, but it was not as strong of a connection I’ve made
with the girl. Another classmate took me to counseling services. Talked for a
while and got referred a book to help me cope. The book was helpful and all,
but I could still not break the feeling I got for this girl. At this point,
you’d probably wonder why I haven’t asked her out because she seems like a nice
girl. Reason? She already has a boyfriend and they have a good connection
already. This girl has helped me through a monumental moment in my life when I turned
nineteen and helped me through my crisis. My loyalty and care are with her as I
feel indebted to her. Because of my own ethics, I have chosen the step not to
ask her out because she’s in a relationship. If she’s happy, then I’m happy for
her. I ask myself if I should keep searching for the One or wait for her. I
decided to do both, keep on searching and wait at the same time. Like I said, I
am 100% loyal towards her, but I can’t keep myself waiting because I crave the
feeling.
After graduation, I decided to look
for a job related to my field of study. I know both me and her were on the
lookout for jobs. I got a job and then I decided to refer her into my
organization. Helped her send in a cover letter and resume as well as some
paperwork on my end. I knew she was still searching for a job, but I felt
compelled to help her back. She was so close to getting the job; HR already
contacted her for an interview, but it was conflicting with another job offer
she got. A job which was closer to her home, good pay, and steady hours. She
chose the other job and gave her appreciation for my efforts. I’m not usually a
believer in fate, but at that pointing time, I was starting to feel like there
was something stopping me and her from getting together. If it doesn’t work
out, I still hope we can be good friends. I am pretty happy and fully of
confidence when I contact her once in a while on Facebook, but I start to think
the opportunities diminish over time.
Continuing on with my life,
wondering if I can ever meet another person like her. When I got my new job, I
met some girls whom I did training together. Because I still had my great
interpersonal skills, I was able to become friends with all of them. One girl
stood out the most to me. Same age, same birthplace, and same birth month, I
could relate most things with easily. Here’s the stunner again, she has a
boyfriend. Why is it every time when I see someone interesting, they are
already taken? Fate? Destiny? Nonetheless, I try to continue our friendship.
One day she asked me a surprising unpredictable question. Was I gay? What the
heck did I do to get that statement? To my surprise other female coworkers
where thinking about that as well. Reason for question? I was neat, organized,
and loved to chat. So apparently these characteristics made them think I was
gay. So I spoke very straightforward that I was not gay. The girl and another
girl who seemed nice that also had a boyfriend as well blurted out that I
should get a girlfriend. If only if it was that easy…
The following week, I started to get
more and more hopeless. My old friends in high school, both grade elevens, have
a girlfriend. I don’t even have one during high school. Flashback to my grade
eleven year. There was this girl that I liked very much since grade seven, but
I was shy. This was before I had my personality change. A friend of mine
offered to help me and her get together. I was unsure, but gave it a try. Not
sure if it was bad luck, fate, or a bad friend; the guy went out with her after
a few months. To this day, I can only look at how foolish I was and got over
it. This girl was not as caring as the other girl who helped me through my
crisis. Moving on to the present, one guy who games with me grade nine also got
a girlfriend recently. Although we’ve never met, but it seems that I seem to
notice it more and more now. A few weeks later after chatting with him, a girl
from our gaming group openly said that she had a boyfriend. Same grade, but
located on the opposite site of the planet; I’m starting to question myself. Am
I going to be single forever? There are a lot of girls out there, but why is it
me with the streak of bad luck? Why me?
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