Ever wonder if secrets should be
shared with people? I have. Question is how much do you want to share? Sharing
it requires an act of balancing. Is it personal? Would sharing make you feel
better than before? I personally think that if you share some personal issues
that trouble you, it would be a wise decision even though lots of courage is
needed.
Here I am, sharing some of my
deepest personal secrets for strangers to see. I think it’s easier for me to
share secrets with complete strangers because you don’t have to face them in
your life. From this memoir, I think sharing it to the world would somewhat
make me feel better. Rather than digesting in everything and making me upset or
angry.
Sharing secrets is a two-way street.
Both sides need to feel comfortable and secure sharing their secrets. I’ll give
an example with the girl in post-secondary. When she was helping me with my
crisis, she shared some of her family life and relationships that she had. From
that, I was able to relate some points and feel better. Because she shared her
secrets, I was able to share some secrets about my life as well.
Sometimes sharing secrets is the
only way to resolve your issues. Why leave it all to yourself? Let someone help
you with your problems. If you don’t share it, people can’t help you even if
they try. I think the time when I went to counseling; it was the unknown I had
to face. I don’t even know why I was there or how they could help me.
Nonetheless, I just said what’s on my mind. The one hour session was all I had.
Pity it was short. Totally could have had more time. Felt like counselors
should give more of a listening ear. So, to share your secrets and have someone
who has the time and supports you makes me very happy.
Gender differences also play a role
in sharing secrets. If I showed this memoir to a guy, he’d probably tell me to
man up. But if I showed it to a girl, they are more supportive and able to give
some good feedback and positive support. Hence, I think girls are fascinating
creatures.
There is a secret that I’m not sure
if I want to share, but I’d like to give it a try. Ever felt so alone you’d
cried yourself to sleep? I have. Let me tell you this, it’s not just a one time
occurrence. If you never cried yourself to sleep, you are very fortunate and
have a good life. Maybe I’m too emotional. In society, it’s alright for girls
to cry and get emotional, but not alright for the guys. A guy’s tough and
strong figure makes them hardened. Question for all. Is that the way it should
be? Can guys cry too? I think the more hardened you become, the less awareness
you have for the others. What do you think?
There are some secrets that I still
regret sharing. That grade eleven year when a friend offered to help me get
together with the girl I like, but went out with her instead. This time, I will
go into a bit more detail. I never told anyone that I liked her since grade
seven until grade eleven. He said that he could help me out with her. I trusted
him. Spilled my secret. Got backstabbed. Sometimes I wonder if he became
hardened, unaware of the feelings of others.
Perhaps, secrets can’t be shared with guys. Maybe I just haven’t found
the right group of guys that could be trusted. Bad luck once again? Perhaps…
So what have I learned so far for
secrets? Some secrets are worth sharing, but some secrets need a bit more
evaluation before you share it with others. Sharing it to others who are strangers
to you are okay for me since I get the anonymity. Then again, this is my own
perception and my thoughts, so I’m not generalizing. I am sure some of you
would completely disagree with me. It’s fine, I’m not here to judge.
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